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Updated: January 20, 2021

Exploring Acceptance

Acceptance is one of the most essential principles of 12-step recovery. When you first get sober, you do so as you accept that you have a problem. Once you admit you have a problem with alcohol or drugs, you must also accept that you need help.

Throughout early recovery, you’ll learn there are many things you need to learn to accept. Acceptance isn’t an action – it’s a process. As you grow and change in recovery, you’ll discover that it can be a daily struggle. There are many things out of our control that we must accept, and it can be challenging! This is why you’ll continue to work the 12-steps even after you’ve been sober a few years.

Questions About Acceptance

You may think that you’ve already mastered acceptance. Acceptance, however, isn’t something you can master. It’s something that will crop up throughout your life as a human being.

If you’re in early recovery, you might still be grappling with the idea of acceptance. That’s a normal part of the process of getting sober. The good news is that you can take things a day at a time.

Here are some questions you can use to explore the idea of acceptance. You can write the answers to these questions in a journal, meditate about them, or simply ask yourself the questions and answer as you read.

  1. What is the dictionary definition of acceptance?
  2. What flaws do you have? Do you accept them? Do you think you can accept something and work to change it at the same time?
  3. Who was the first person outside of your family to accept you for who you are?
  4. Do you find it easy or hard to accept other peoples’ flaws?
  5. Have you ever tried to make somebody change when they weren’t willing?
  6. What places are triggers for you using? Have you accepted you are powerless over these places?
  7. When you are in a relationship, do you accept the person’s flaws? Have you ever tried to change somebody else?
  8. When you were a teenager, did you accept your looks? Or did you think that changing them would make you happier?
  9. Have you ever had a relative or friend that seemed to accept you and love you no matter what?
  10. What does it mean to you to accept that you are powerless over your addiction?
  11. Which people in your “old life” are you powerless over?
  12. Was admitting you are powerless over others scary?
  13. What is the hardest thing to accept in your life today?
  14. Have you learned to turn things over, or are you at a point where you still have to work on acceptance?
  15. What things do you accept today that you didn’t accept six months ago? What did it take to start accepting them?

Recovery Housing Can Help

During the era of COVID-19, many people are feeling isolated. It’s easy to understand why. If you or a loved one is looking for stability and continuity after treatment, consider sober housing. We offer a family-like atmosphere that allows for growth and stability. We are still taking clients while we use COVID-19 safety procedures. Please get in touch at 760-216-2077 to learn more about your options.


If you or a loved one is looking for a safe and sober home in North County San Diego, call 760-216-2077. One of our caring members is ready to answer all of your questions.

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