DUI: Living  Sober After an Arrest

The laws governing DUI in California have become more stringent, making it a more expensive crime than in previous years. However, the emphasis is gradually shifting towards educating and/or getting treatment for the offender rather than punitive measures.

More than a few men and women have made their way to our program after being being charged with a substance-related driving infraction

Treatment May Not Be Required, but Change is Necessary

About one in 3 traffic deaths in the United States involves an impaired driver. In California, there are over 10,000 deaths caused by impaired drivers

Just because someone has been charged with a DUI it doesn’t mean they have an alcohol use disorder. However, the behavior must be stopped. This is why the penalties are getting higher and higher.  By some estimates, you will pay $20,000 in penalties after your first DUI, and multiple offenders get much more serious infractions (mandatory jailtime is standard for a 2nd DUI).

Sober Living Support for DUI Offenders in San DIego

Our sober living in Carlsbad is centrally located to universities job opportunities, public transportation, and of course – the beach.

We take pride in immersing our residence in a supportive community of fellow recovering people. There’s no shame here, only support. Our founder Mark Gladden has been a financial member of the San Diego recovery community for many years. He takes pride in steering men on the right path. Our house managers take what they do very seriously, perform random drug tests weekly, and support our residents.

Living Life On Its Terms

Getting where you need to go is one logistic you’ll need to overcome in recovery. It will be humbling to ask for rides or take Uber rides for long distances. However, you can also get along fine in the California weather without a car at all. Skateboard, jog, or bike wherever you choose once you’re out of rehab. AA meetings and NA meetings are currently online due to COVID-19.

Ask for help when you need it, and keep doing the right thing for your recovery! Time will make all the difference. One thing for sure: You’ll never get another DUI as long as you stay alcohol and drug-free.

“Car Breathalyzers” or Ignition Interlock Devices

An ignition interlock device is the proper term for a device commonly referred to as “car breathalyzer.” An ignition interlock device (IID) is a small handheld device that measures the amount of alcohol in the user’s breath. Installing one is  becoming a common requirement following a drunk driving offense (known as DUI, DWI, DUI, OWI or OVI).

An  ignition interlock device is an in-car breathalyzer that prevents a user from starting a vehicle until a breath alcohol test is taken.

If the IID registers the results of the breath test (BAC or Blood Alcohol Concentration) over the pre-set limit, the vehicle will not start. If the driver’s breath test is below the pre-set limit, the vehicle

There have been residents in our sober living house in San Diego who have used an IID.

ignition interlock sober living device

Some Reasons to Choose By The Sea Recovery

Experienced professionals

By the Sea Recovery has a staff ratio of more than 2-1 to insure our environment remains safe and secure for our residents. We all work a program of long term recovery to promote an environment of positive reinforcement through action.

Premium amenities

From computer station to comfortable bedding and furniture, let an ambience of peace support the transition towards sobriety.


With over 100’s of support groups a week, North County San Diego provides on of the country’s top recovery communities with opportunities ranging from entry level jobs and multiple Educational Institutions to Recreational and Leisure Activities.


Members of the Sober Living Network and the California Consortium of Addiction Professionals, and San Diego Society of Addiction Professionals, By The Sea Recovery goes beyond the standards of San Diego recovery home requirements to set a benchmark in sober living environments and quality of care.


Supervised. Drug testing. Peer oriented and client centered. We made sure safety and cleanliness were a foundation for recovery to attend every client’s healing, journey and blossoming.

Shaped by our Clients

Don’t take our word for it. Let our clients, family and loved ones communicate the impact of our recovery homes in their lives.

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    Questions & Answers

    What makes By The Sea Recovery sober living San Diego unique?

    By The Sea Recovery sober living San Diego sets the standard in sober living and recovery housing for men by offering the nation’s first all-employed and scholar enrolled sober residence. Our home encourages a social model where senior residents share the hope of having experienced a job raise, transfer to a community college and/or transition smoothly into a family living condition or with another sober member in our community. Secondly, By The Sea Recovery sober living has CPR, First Aid, certified and National Association of Recovery Residences & California Consortium of Addiction Programs and Professionals approved with live-in management. No new resident will ever be or feel alone. Finally, our space is not only aesthetic, but we take care of our surroundings as a family with some of the highest quality furniture, beddings, pans, glasses and utensils (not to mention our herb garden and patio), treating each other like responsible and powerful men.

    How often do you drug test at By The Sea Recovery sober living?

    We do not shy about costs of drug testing at our sober living home, offering a complete lab certified 13 panel UA (urinalysis of 13 drug families including synthetics) as well as random morning and evening DOT (department of transportation) approved breathalyzer techniques. We use a fuel cell breathalyzer that, unlike low cost conductor breathalyzers, is accurate and non-invasive. These drug test costs cannot replace the safety and peaceful atmosphere we have created. For our new sober living residents, it is not uncommon for us to test daily to reaffirm our mission of creating a space of safety. The peace and tranquility created by often, random drug testing, is unparalleled.

    How often should we keep in touch with our son ? Does he need us to visit or call often?

    We suggest that for the first 30 days, family give space for the sober living resident to become embraced by his new social circle. Calling, texting, and/or continuing to be in touch often through other means could interrupt the process of acclimatization to the mentorship and social model process and leadership. We cannot enforce such interaction, but we ask family to be aware that substance use disorders can interfere with family dynamics. We highly recommend Al-Anon or other recovery support groups for family members, addiction counseling, therapy and any other educational means(we highly recommend reading ‘Clean’ by David Scheff, ‘Understanding Ourselves‘ or ‘A letter from an Addict‘ from Al-Anon to understand addiction and the recovery process as a family, not only from the loved one’s perspective. After the first 30 days, you may wish to have your loved one have an overnight with direct family, an opportunity when, if ready, can experience a space to engage and measure the progress. We cannot overemphasize the importance of having a counselor and/or therapist to provide guidance in the interaction and dynamic of the family in early recovery. Every family is different, and the relationship with every member is unique. Please contact a counselor or therapist in your area specialized in addiction for the appropriate assessment.

    Why is it suggested to have a minimum stay of 60 days at your sober living home?

    Based on research and experience, an extended stay at a sober house is the beginning to a stable sleep/wake cycle pattern, social cohesion and above all well being and a foundation for long-term recovery. Sober living homes where people come in and out without structure and accountability lack the continuity, stability, mentorship and development that a sober home with such structure can add to the support of newer residents. After experiencing part-time work, job raises and new levels of independence with a salary, senior residents convey a level of inspiration to those who arrive that is priceless.

    Are meals included? How much should I provide?

    To include a full time chef and a maid at our sober house would be to not only enable, but to continue a Childhood State similar to the addiction itself. In the ‘real world’, few of us have these luxuries. To transition them from this level of Co-Dependence is to prepare them for success. While we do offer a meal and part time maid service to support a mature population, our emphasis is to support the men at our sober home with clear responsibilities to themselves, their community and the residence they call home. It is our experience that an average of $300-$400 in food a month is enough to begin. This process of negotiation can begin with accountability of receipts (we highly recommend consulting a therapist and/or counselor in order to explore previous family interaction and dynamics, finances, etc.). With a part time job, it is easy for a resident to be able to pay for his meals by month 2 of his residence at By The Sea Recovery sober living San Diego. Once a resident is in month 4, it is not uncommon to be able to pay approximately half of the expenses and can contribute to their family or move with a roommate from our sober home to a space with the same level of standards. This is but a recommendation, for nothing can replace the professional assessment and support of a counselor and/or therapist to help the family come to this agreement. Please see our sober house contact list for referrals.

    Didn’t find the answer?

    We’re here to make sure our program can accommodate your needs as well as supporting parents or loved ones in “know how” critical to the continued journey of recovery. Contact us with your questions and call for availability or to schedule a personal tour with the owner.

    Didn’t find the answer?

    We’re here to make sure our program can accommodate your needs as well as supporting parents or loved ones in “know how” critical to the continued journey of recovery. Contact us with your questions and call for availability or to schedule a personal tour with the owner