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Why Men’s Sober Living in San Diego

After quitting drugs and alcohol, it’s often difficult to return to the life you had before sobriety. So many of your friends, your habits, and even your recreational activities can be closely connected to your addiction. That is why By the Sea Recovery created a program for men’s sober living in San Diego, California.

In sober living, you will create friendships, habits, and recreational activities that are aligned with living in recovery. Making connections with other people who also value clean living will help you to learn skills that can aid you in staying sober for the long term. Men’s sober living offers a safe place to help you practice your sobriety after rehab. If you are looking to continue the good habits that you started in rehab, our program is right for you.

Men and Substance Abuse

Men suffer from substance abuse in a different way than women. Other than being more likely to abuse drugs or alcohol than women, studies show that men experience drugs differently. Men are also more likely to overdose from opioids than women.

In general, men have different substance abuse problems than women. Not only do they respond differently to drugs, but men and women tend to abuse drugs and alcohol for different reasons. This is one of many reasons why there are gender-specific places for sober living.

Why Men’s Sober Living?

Co-ed sober living arrangements are often wrought with problems. Living with other genders can create a number of distractions that can negatively impact early recovery. Gender roles and gender stereotypes can get in the way for many men. One example of that is men being taught never to cry. Because of this, many men struggle with showing feelings and being vulnerable. It can often feel worse to do so in front of women.

Studies show that men are less willing to share their experiences in recovery meetings when women are around. Many men find it easier to open up with other men going through the same struggles. For some reason, they find it difficult to let down their guard with women nearby.

Also, men’s sober living allows bonding and friendships to occur with men experiencing the same issues. Men have different struggles with addiction than women, so it really doesn’t make sense to put them together.

Finally, same-sex sober living discourages straight men from entering into romantic relationships early in recovery. This behavior is discouraged early in recovery, especially when becoming romantically involved with other people in early recovery. These types of relationships can distract you from your sobriety, making gender-specific sober living facilities especially helpful.

What is Men’s Sober Living in San Diego Like?

Men’s sober living extends your time in a structured environment after rehab. Sober living is much less restrictive than rehab, allowing you to learn to live in the real world while staying sober. In addition, you will get structure, support, and guidance during your time at By The Sea Recovery.

Sober living allows you to get back to your life, but with the help and support that you need. You get to practice living a sober life while going back to work or school, mending relationships, with loved ones, and spending more time with your family. However, you will have access to many outpatient services to help you find ways to deal with any struggles you may have.

At By The Sea Recovery, you will share household chores and follow a routine. Mealtimes are held as a group and encourage discussion and community. There are also peer support groups and sober recreational activities offered throughout the day.

Benefits of Men’s Sober Living in San Diego

Men’s sober living in San Diego reduces the risk of relapse, decreases isolation, and makes the transition from rehab easier and more gradual. Sober living gives you the space to practice sobriety.

There are a number of other benefits to men’s sober living. You learn life skills such as taking care of yourself, balancing a budget, or maintaining a home. Other skills that can be learned are healthy meal preparation, seeking employment, creating a daily routine, finding safe and affordable housing, and returning to school.

Build Friendships Based on Sobriety

Drug and alcohol abuse often strain most relationships, whether they’re friends, family, or spouses. Trust takes time to mend. Many people feel lonely as they recover, which can trigger a relapse.

The culture at sober living homes encourages a sense of community among men in recovery. You will be surrounded by people who you will have things in common with you, as well as sharing many life goals. These friendships will help you learn to be a friend again and allow you to support each other in your recovery.

Routine and Structure in Sober Living

As boring as structure can sound, a routine in a structured environment will help you put your life back together. Creating routines is a life skill that will help you in sobriety. At By The Sea Recovery, you will be expected to keep a schedule as well as set goals.

Sober Living Decreases the Instances of Relapse

Addiction is a disease with relapse rates anywhere from 40%-60% and is especially common during early recovery. One way to help prevent a relapse is to have a bridge in care between rehab and returning home.

Men’s sober living holds you accountable for your sobriety. Many programs require you to take either regular or randomized drug and alcohol tests. It’s also a supportive environment where both your friends and the staff are there to help you maintain your sobriety.

Sober Living Aids Transitioning to Everyday Life

The biggest benefit of sober living is being able to transition successfully to everyday life. Instead of returning home to all of the people and habits that helped you maintain your addiction, sober living will allow you to practice living outside of rehab but without all of those triggering factors that can be found at home. Above all, sober living gives you the space and ability to live substance-free and practice the necessary skills needed to maintain a sober life.


Some Reasons to Choose By The Sea Recovery

  • Experienced Professionals
    By the Sea Recovery has live-in management to ensure our environment remains safe and secure for our residents. We all work a program of long-term recovery to promote an environment of positive reinforcement through action.
  • Premium Amenities
    From computer station to comfortable bedding and furniture, let an ambience of peace support the transition towards sobriety
  • Location
    With over 100’s of support groups a week, North County San Diego provides on of the country’s top recovery communities with opportunities ranging from entry level jobs and multiple Educational Institutions to Recreational and Leisure Activities
  • Credentialed
    Members of the Society of Addiction Recovery Residences, the California Consortium of Addiction Professionals, and San Diego Society of Addiction Professionals, By the Sea Recovery goes beyond the standards of San Diego recovery home requirements to set a benchmark in sober living environments and quality of care.
  • Safety
    Supervised. Drug testing. Peer oriented and client centered. We made sure safety and cleanliness were a foundation for recovery to attend every client’s healing, journey and blossoming.
  • Shaped by our Clients
    Don’t take our word for it. Let our clients, family and loved ones communicate the impact of our recovery homes in their lives.
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June 23, 2021

I am the mother of a 32 year old man who has realized great success with his sobriety , living in a By The Sea Recovery house. The support system there has been remarkable. We are so grateful that our son knows he's not unique to this disease. And we know that upon his re-entry in to his community at large he'll have tools learned at By The Sea that are lasting. We are grateful beyond words for the support he has received while @ By The Sea. The management is outstanding. I cannot speak highly enough of this wonderful agency. Thank you By The Sea.

September 24, 2020

My name is Eduardo and I had the opportunity to received the support and reside in By The Sea Recovery for 5 months. I have only words of gratitude and can’t speak highly enough of my experience in the house. I would be always grateful to Mark and Amy for the respect and endless support not only while in the house but through out my recovery. House is clean and very well kept by Delroy while treating you with respect and like an adult. Highly recommended

October 24, 2019

I researched a number of sober living facilities in the area and found that "By The Sea Recovery" was absolutely the best. Mark Gladden is the owner and CEO of the facility and he runs a great program. He communicates very well and tells it like it is with no B.S. He is honest, fair and compassionate. He genuinely cares about the residents and does whatever he can to help ensure success. Debbie is the house manager and she is amazing. She runs a tight ship but also builds comarady among the residents. She knows when residents need privacy but also recognizes when someone is struggling and needs to talk. She is a great cook and her Chili Colorado is out of this world. I highly recommend "By The Sea Recovery" to anyone looking for a sober living facility.

July 5, 2019

I own a Women's Sober Living Home next to Present Moments. One of my residents went there for out-patient and spoke very highly of their program. She would come home at night, excited about everything she learned. She said this was the first time she was able process her feelings in a group. She spoke very highly of the counselors their and was a changed women when she was finished. I appreciate the quality of treatment that Present Moment Recovery has to offer and will continue to refer my residents to them. From a friendly neighbor, Sober Living Today, LLC

November 4, 2018

We highly recommend Mark and his facility. We have dealt with a number of different sober living facilities over the years. This one is by far the most professional and helpful.Mark answered a cold call from us when we were confused and desperate trying to help our son. Six months later he is transitioning to living on his own and we are thankful for Mark and the By the Sea community. Thank you!

October 30, 2017

My brother, we’ll call him James to protect his anonymity, came here after attending their detox and inpatient program. He’s had tremendous success and currently has over six months of sobriety!! James has attended other treatment facilities and sober living homes and liked this one the best. I was able to visit him here and was very impressed by their organization and structure. Very friendly staff and a great living facility. We highly recommend! Thank You Recovery By The Sea

December 31, 2016

Mark is a professional. His knowledge of addiction and rehabilitation as well as timely information on health insurance issues, sober living and recovery for both the addict and their family is invaluable. He is the expert one needs! Leslie Wilson Orinda, CA

June 26, 2015

I came in to By the Sea Recovery on January 17th of 2015. I came in as a resident to a loving and inspiring environment. The love that I experienced when I walked through the doors are above and beyond just any sober living. This is not your average sober living. This is a family and band of brothers who help each other every day in every aspect of life that goes beyond just recovery. The culture of the home can't really be put into words other than love and respect. My family has been reunited and we share a beautiful relationship today. By the Sea is the cornerstone of my recovery and I am forever grateful for the experience I have had with the people I consider my family. If you are looking for an inspiring and aesthetic environment where lives are transformed and families reunited through love and integrity then By the Sea is the place for you or your loved one. God bless.

May 1, 2013
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