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What is a Sober Living?

A 'sober living' is a group home or facility that allows people who are in recovery from various addictions to live together. This is useful in preventing relapse and helping develop the skills to maintain their sobriety in the long term.

Sober living homes are usually located in peaceful locations to make the early stages of recovery easier. At By The Sea Recovery, that’s why we are located in a scenic area of San Diego.

Are Sober Living Homes Effective?

If you are interested in sober living communities, you are probably wondering if these programs are effective in helping people in early recovery. Studies have shown that not only are sober living homes effective in helping clients commit more to long-term recovery, but there were also improvements in alcohol and drug use, arrests, psychiatric symptoms, employment, and general quality of life.

What is a Sober Living Community Like?

Unlike rehab facilities, residents of sober living communities have the freedom to come and go as they please. There is a house manager who oversees daily operations with the help of senior residents. The house manager ensures that all of the residents follow community rules while they continue their recovery.

Residents are required remain sober and can be drug tested regularly. There is the opportunity to attend outpatient treatment and peer-support meetings. These are just two of many advantages of residing in a sober living community.

Even though residents of a sober home enjoy more freedoms than those of inpatient rehab facilities, sober home residents can still expect a curfew and a ban on overnight guests. At By The Sea Recovery, we strive to provide an atmosphere as free of temptation and distraction as possible.

If you decide to stay in a sober living community, you will learn to establish a routine, pay rent and bills regularly, buy groceries, cook, and do laundry regularly. There will also be some basic chores, as well as the expectation of keeping your room and communal spaces tidy. We strive to help you implement healthy routines that will promote responsibility, independence, and self-maintenance.

You can expect to sign a contract agreeing to follow the rules of the sober living community before being accepted to By the Sea Recovery. The time you spend in sober communities is structured to resemble a healthy environment. You will be expected to wake up early, meet your personal and professional obligations, and engage in the form of recovery that is right for you.

Many sober living homes provide access to a variety of recreational and outdoor activities. The intention of these communities is to encourage residents to work together in a goal-oriented fashion, building a healthier lifestyle in line with recovery goals.

The evenings in sober living homes tend to be unstructured. It allows for downtime, but with a curfew.

Why Choose A Sober Living Community?

If you decide to stay in a sober living community, you will reside in a beautiful, tranquil setting. You will be surrounded by other people who are dedicated to their sobriety. The community support system has been instrumental in the recovery of hundreds of people and will help you in your recovery too. At By the Sea Recovery, we are bound together by our focus on the recovery of everyone in this program. All of the individuals who remain committed to a substance-free life and support each other are what gives us strength.

Many times, people who leave rehab or attend an intensive outpatient program can experience extreme cravings to use again shortly after leaving. A supportive community environment where every person is dedicated to the singular goal of long-lasting sobriety can help you learn to handle these urges and support your fellow residents when dealing with these cravings.

Our location is just blocks away from the beach, allowing clients to enjoy some beach therapy. The vitamin D you get from the sun is a natural antidepressant and can help lessen the negative feelings that people can experience in the early stages of their sobriety.

By the Sea Recovery homes offer expansive floor plans, state-of-the-art kitchens and bathrooms, and beautiful views. There are also number of big-screen TVs, private outdoor spaces, pool tables, and welcoming communal areas to help residents relax.

Daily Life in a Sober Living Home

Sober living programs should not be confused with inpatient rehab, even though they are both residential facilities. All of the residents at sober living homes are at varying points on their recovery journeys, so you can harness powerful peer support. When you make positive and sober friendships, you can reinforce your desire to remain abstinent.

It is possible for people to attend outpatient treatment while based in a sober living community, which is still cheaper than residential rehab. Even so, it provides a stable and supportive environment where you can attend counseling and therapy sessions at rehab centers during the day and return to the sober living home in the evening.

Sober living communities focus on positively filling your time in active recovery rather than passively sitting and letting sobriety happen to you. There will be people to help and advise you when you need it, but there is plenty of room for privacy and independence, too.
How your day is structured in sober living will depend on your circumstances as well as where you are on your road to recovery. Make sure you utilize your time as much as possible.

Improve Your Chance of Long-Term Recovery with a Sober Living Program

Relapse is common in early recovery. Sober living in Southern California can mean the difference between relapse and a seamless journey to sustained sobriety.

Many people finishing a program in rehab find a sober living home helps to make the shift back into daily living less abrupt. Other people like the idea of engaging in outpatient treatment, yet lack a home environment that will aid you in your recovery.

With the relapse prevention plan and right aftercare in place, you should be able to identify and deal with any triggers that tempt you to use substances while enjoying a structured yet independent lifestyle at a sober living program in Southern California.

Some Reasons to Choose By The Sea Recovery

  • Experienced Professionals
    By the Sea Recovery has live-in management to ensure our environment remains safe and secure for our residents. We all work a program of long-term recovery to promote an environment of positive reinforcement through action.
  • Premium Amenities
    From computer station to comfortable bedding and furniture, let an ambience of peace support the transition towards sobriety
  • Location
    With over 100’s of support groups a week, North County San Diego provides on of the country’s top recovery communities with opportunities ranging from entry level jobs and multiple Educational Institutions to Recreational and Leisure Activities
  • Credentialed
    Members of the Society of Addiction Recovery Residences, the California Consortium of Addiction Professionals, and San Diego Society of Addiction Professionals, By the Sea Recovery goes beyond the standards of San Diego recovery home requirements to set a benchmark in sober living environments and quality of care.
  • Safety
    Supervised. Drug testing. Peer oriented and client centered. We made sure safety and cleanliness were a foundation for recovery to attend every client’s healing, journey and blossoming.
  • Shaped by our Clients
    Don’t take our word for it. Let our clients, family and loved ones communicate the impact of our recovery homes in their lives.
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Our Reviews
June 23, 2021

I am the mother of a 32 year old man who has realized great success with his sobriety , living in a By The Sea Recovery house. The support system there has been remarkable. We are so grateful that our son knows he's not unique to this disease. And we know that upon his re-entry in to his community at large he'll have tools learned at By The Sea that are lasting. We are grateful beyond words for the support he has received while @ By The Sea. The management is outstanding. I cannot speak highly enough of this wonderful agency. Thank you By The Sea.

September 24, 2020

My name is Eduardo and I had the opportunity to received the support and reside in By The Sea Recovery for 5 months. I have only words of gratitude and can’t speak highly enough of my experience in the house. I would be always grateful to Mark and Amy for the respect and endless support not only while in the house but through out my recovery. House is clean and very well kept by Delroy while treating you with respect and like an adult. Highly recommended

October 24, 2019

I researched a number of sober living facilities in the area and found that "By The Sea Recovery" was absolutely the best. Mark Gladden is the owner and CEO of the facility and he runs a great program. He communicates very well and tells it like it is with no B.S. He is honest, fair and compassionate. He genuinely cares about the residents and does whatever he can to help ensure success. Debbie is the house manager and she is amazing. She runs a tight ship but also builds comarady among the residents. She knows when residents need privacy but also recognizes when someone is struggling and needs to talk. She is a great cook and her Chili Colorado is out of this world. I highly recommend "By The Sea Recovery" to anyone looking for a sober living facility.

July 5, 2019

I own a Women's Sober Living Home next to Present Moments. One of my residents went there for out-patient and spoke very highly of their program. She would come home at night, excited about everything she learned. She said this was the first time she was able process her feelings in a group. She spoke very highly of the counselors their and was a changed women when she was finished. I appreciate the quality of treatment that Present Moment Recovery has to offer and will continue to refer my residents to them. From a friendly neighbor, Sober Living Today, LLC

November 4, 2018

We highly recommend Mark and his facility. We have dealt with a number of different sober living facilities over the years. This one is by far the most professional and helpful.Mark answered a cold call from us when we were confused and desperate trying to help our son. Six months later he is transitioning to living on his own and we are thankful for Mark and the By the Sea community. Thank you!

October 30, 2017

My brother, we’ll call him James to protect his anonymity, came here after attending their detox and inpatient program. He’s had tremendous success and currently has over six months of sobriety!! James has attended other treatment facilities and sober living homes and liked this one the best. I was able to visit him here and was very impressed by their organization and structure. Very friendly staff and a great living facility. We highly recommend! Thank You Recovery By The Sea

December 31, 2016

Mark is a professional. His knowledge of addiction and rehabilitation as well as timely information on health insurance issues, sober living and recovery for both the addict and their family is invaluable. He is the expert one needs! Leslie Wilson Orinda, CA

June 26, 2015

I came in to By the Sea Recovery on January 17th of 2015. I came in as a resident to a loving and inspiring environment. The love that I experienced when I walked through the doors are above and beyond just any sober living. This is not your average sober living. This is a family and band of brothers who help each other every day in every aspect of life that goes beyond just recovery. The culture of the home can't really be put into words other than love and respect. My family has been reunited and we share a beautiful relationship today. By the Sea is the cornerstone of my recovery and I am forever grateful for the experience I have had with the people I consider my family. If you are looking for an inspiring and aesthetic environment where lives are transformed and families reunited through love and integrity then By the Sea is the place for you or your loved one. God bless.

May 1, 2013
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