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How Active Listening Can Help Your Recovery

Many people in recovery learn new skills as they spend more time sober. Learning about your feelings, triggers, and other issues are essential. New coping tools can help you learn to manage your emotions in recovery, as well. Active listening is a communication tool that can help you grow emotionally. It can help you connect with others and learn to identify with them, rather than comparing yourself “out.” After all, we are all human, and we all have things to learn from each other.

What is Active Listening?

Active listening is a method of diaglosue where you take an active approach to listening and interpreting a conversation. Active listening isn’t just listening, but participating. It is a great skill to learn, in general, so that you can learn more and understand where the other person is coming from.

How to Listen Actively

  1. Approach your conversations intending to take something away with you. Use a conversation as a way to learn from the other speakers. Let the other person speak first, and don’t interrupt.
  2. Think about what the other person is saying. Repeat information you hear back to the other person to make sure you understand what they’re talking about.
  3. Ask questions. If you’re having a discussion with somebody and they are upset, make sure you acknowledge they’re feeling that way. “Did that upset you?” is a good step toward understanding. Remember, don’t interrupt.
  4. Summarize what you think you’ve heard and offer feedback – don’t argue. Saying something as simple as, “Oh, I didn’t realize you felt like that. I’ll try to be more patient next time” can help offer empathy and show the other person you actually care about what’s being said.

Learning to listen actively will help you understand the way other people feel. You’ll also learn more about your family, friends, and co-workers by practicing active listening. Listening and reacting with empathy will help you have deeper relationships. It will also help you understand yourself and the world around you as you continue your journey in recovery.

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Mark Gladden
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Mark Gladden is the founder of By The Sea Recovery, a sober living facility located in beautiful San Diego, California. After struggling with addiction, Mark finally found recovery and a new purpose in life, to help others who are battling the same battle he faced.
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